How an abuser can discover your internet activities: if you worry that someone might see where you've been on the internet, or might read your email, please read this information.

Learn more about internet safety

To learn about cyberstalking - stalking and threats received through email, see this online safety brochure from Working to Halt Abuse Online.

This web site talks about violence.

What is violence?

There are many resources, and a lot of information online about violence. Some of this information is at this website.

Violence describes, or tells about, things that people do that hurt other people. Violence can hurt physically (your body) and emotionally (your feelings).

Physical abuse describes one person hurting another person by hitting, shoving, kicking, slapping, or doing other things to hurt someone's body.

Emotional abuse describes, or tells about, one person hurting another person by saying hurtful things, shouting, making a person afraid, or telling the person that she or he is stupid.

The legal definition (what the law says) of domestic violence is violence committed by one family or household member against another. (Definition from

Violence against women (PDF file), from Where women have no Doctor

The Center Against Spousal Abuse (CASA) - Recognizing Domestic Violence outlines basic information about domestic violence.

What is domestic abuse?, a useful resource from Scottish Women's Aid, including a bill of rights for women.

Deaf Culture and   Domestic Violence ; powerpoint available here

getting help: resources for domestic violence assistance in Rhode Island, including information for victims of crime

Writings: understandings of experiences of violence

Many people have thought about, or had experiences of violent behavior. Read what they've said about their experiences here.

The Domestic Violence Handbook is a clearly written resource designed for women in Michigan, but it also provides useful information about domestic violence generally.

These are some of the examples domestic violence in the handbook:

Examples of domestic violence are:

  • emotional abuse through mind games, name-calling, or put-downs
  • isolation from family or friends
  • economic abuse by withholding money or being prevented from getting or holding a job
  • sexual assault
  • stalking
  • intimidation
  • Are there words in this list you don't understand? How can you learn more about what these words mean? Check out the definitions page in the Domestic Violence Handbook. Write your questions and see if someone you know can help you find an answer, or try a dictionary. If you have a suggestion to help explain these words, please let us know. Click here to send your suggestions.

    Here is another site which describes abuse in very clear language: Woman Abuse: The Basic Facts, from Women's Net, South Africa. (May, 2009 -- Woman Abuse isn't online - or can't be found. Has anyone seen it?)

    Safety Plans

    Leaving an abusive relationship is difficult. Sometimes a person can be in more danger after leaving a relationship than before leaving. Read about how to plan for your own safety if you decide to leave.

    Safety Plan from the Nashville Police Department

    Abuse is wrong in any language - a poster and booklet for immigrant women who are suffering from abuse in a relationship or in a family.

    Abuse Information in 38 Languages Other than English

    Domestic Violence hurts the whole family; written and spoken information in many languages.

    power and control wheel for immigrant women.

    Stardale women's group whose mission "is to provide life skills and literacy education, as well as advocacy to women living in poverty and abusive situations, toward empowering their lives, their families, and their communities, thus overcoming systemic barriers."

    other resources

    Five ways to fight domestic violence from the American Bar Association Domestic Violence resource site. Basic steps to take to fight domestic violence.

    Violence prevention : links to information about violence from the American Medical Association .

    How can I help my friend who is being hit by her boyfriend and doesn't want to break up with him? - suggestions for supporting a friend who is being abused.

    Dating Violence: it is your business; resources for teens in New England.

    Frequently asked questions about violence prepared by Springtide Resources (formerly Education Wife Assault).

    Signs of Abuse - A list of things that can happen in abusive relationships. (For more about ways to think about whether or not a relationship is abusive, see the quizzes from the National Domestic Violence Hotline and the dating violence quiz from the University of Toronto).

    Battered Immigrant Women - information about issues facing women who have come to North America from other countries.

    Hidden Victims: Children of Domestic Violence - information from Lifetime Television about the effects of violence on children and families

    other video resources

    Advocates for Abused and Battered Lesbians - resources for women trying to leave abusive relationships. There have been problems with this site -- the link will be reactivated when the site works again.

    Asian Task force against Domestic Violence, in Lowell, Massachusetts, tells about abuse issues, and connects to ESL classes in Lowell. Some of the information is translated into several Asian languages.

    When Love Hurts: a guide for girls on love, respect and abuse in relationships part of the Domestic Violence & Incest Resource Centre (DVIRC),Victoria, Australia.

    Resources for men, and survivors (male and female) of childhood sexual abuse and trauma compiled by Richard Hoffman.

    What do you think? Please send questions, comments, responses to To read other people's comments, please click here.

    postage stamp with domestic violence theme The US Post Office stamp to raise awareness of and funds for work to end domestic violence .

    to order stamps; click here

    go to writings about violence

    take a quiz about violence

    take a virtual tour of a domestic violence shelter

    resources for teachers

    to literacy resources

    March 2, 2010